Hi, Friends, sharing with you again in gratitude, my personal notes on the 3rd Talk of the Series: MAGNETIC by our Feast Builder Bro Dreus Cosio @ The Feast SM Santa Rosa, Cinema 1, two weeks ago.
Sorry for posting this late; I just had to accomplish a lot lately — but I don’t wanna miss this chance because being a mother of three daughters, I dearly hope this would be something they can always go back to when they come to the RIGHT TIME of finding their “Mr. Right”. I sure do hope that this would also help a lot of parents out there while they fervently desire for their child’s best future.
How to Attract The Right Person Into Your Life
Talk 3: The Bond
When you try to look for the right person,
“Hanapin mo yong taong gagawin kang priority, hindi temporary.”
Basically, both men and women — some, if not all — do not really know how to attract the right person in their life.
Why? — because people are getting confused in their love story and with the way they look at themselves.
Unconscious as they are, there is that tendency to carelessly submit or comply with the 3 Laws of Romantic Attraction:
1st law. You don’t attract who you deserve. You attract who you think you deserve.
Subconsciously, you see yourself in a very low way. You’ve got to consider that your perception is your reality. If you perceive yourself as somebody who is broken, you will be looking for another broken person.
The perfect formula for a toxic relationship is a toxic self.
2nd law. You don’t attract who you want. You attract who you are.
A wounded person will attract another wounded person. An emotionally healthy person will attract another healthy person.
3rd law. You don’t attract how you want to be treated. You attract how you treat yourself.
Long before he treated her as garbage, she already treated herself as garbage.To her, abuse felt like love.
Broken people attracts broken people. “If you don’t do the inner work to heal yourself, your unhealed wounds will attract another wounded person.”
“If you don’t heal your own wounds, you’ll go into a relationship, seeking for someone else to heal your wounds.”
You get attracted to many wrong people because you don’t really think of your self too well.
TO ATTRACT THE RIGHT PERSON, you’ve got “WORK ON YOUR SELF FIRST!” Unless you have a healthy relationship with yourself, you’ll never have a healthy relationship with others.
Its ok for you to declare that you are wonderfully made. You have to love yourself!
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You’ve got to BE YOUR OWN BEST FRIEND!
Here are these 6 WAYS to be your own BEST FRIEND:
1. Forgive your faults.
Imagine yourself at the end of the day and forgive yourself.
2. Fix your fences.
Fix your defense system — your boundaries. Protect yourself from meanness.
3. Feel your feelings.
All emotions are valid but not all expressions. Affirming your feelings is respecting yourself.
Put a gap between emotion and expression.
4. Focus on your fantasies.
What do you picture in your mind?
Stop thinking about the bad stuff that’s happening in your life.
5. Follow your fun.
Don’t take yourself too seriously. “tumawa ka naman!” 🙂
Laugh more often!
6. Find your flow.
Go on, pursue your passion as a person!
If you find your flow — your “zone” — you feel alive.
Go back to yourself. Be comfortable with one thing in life — be comfortable with God’s love.
The bond simply means you have to fix your relationships at home by fixing your self first. You have to love your self every day. You have to feel good about yourself because it all boils down on how you see yourself!
Bro Dreus concluded with this advice:
“Everyday, start declaring the wonderful characters that you are! Couples as well, you could start to embrace your differences and start fixing your relationship.”
Pwedeng may part ng buhay mo na hindi ka sanay
But you need to be comfortable in that place— how?
Magpamahal ka kay God.
Allow God to tell you how much He loves you!