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What to do When You Are Broken

Nakatambay ka ba?
Nakatambay ka ba sa problema na dapat ay dinadaanan mo lang?
Friend, if you sometimes feel so broken, here’s what God wants you to do:
At the end of it all, ‘di mo kailangang tumambay in your brokenness. Your scars will connect with others’ stories if you let your learnings from it FLOW!
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Could “they” have “you”?

 

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The Canvas of Society by Joey Velasco in is just within our realms — a painter’s transformative journey through the children’s afflictions, desires, and deliverance from their circumstance that can reach across generations and cultures.

The likes of Nene, Itok,  Imong, Onse, Buknoy, Michael, Joyce, Tinay, Dudoy, Jun at Roselle & Sudan — 12 characters whose cries no one hears, whose scars are already in their being, whose eyes pierce through, whose minds are innocent yet vulnerable to get tempted by the needs unmet, whose character is subject to ridicule … have you ever asked yourself what you can do for them?

“baka may magawa ka pa!” 

The likes of them who have the ardent hope that “They have Jesus” — could be there just within the four corners of the classroom.  How could you give life to them? How could you reach out to that one soul who still wants to be complete despite being shattered? — that every single soul, longing for one who could listen and understand, who could give guidance and counsel?

What is your commitment then — to them, who are expecting to be noticed while you actually gaze at them in those corners of your eyes?

How could you help calm the storms that others have been through?  What could you do to help others’ life not to be wasted?

How much of yourself could you offer to address the needs of those eyes who need not speak?

How much of your time could you share to embrace the situation of those hearts which cannot feel that they are worthy of another’s love and attention?

I know you could be one’s source of hope. This may be the time that while you are challenged to scrutinize your students’ stories to be of significant help, you may as well WORK ON YOUR OWN STORY! For at the bottom of the line, you can never really share what you don’t have.

Let your story be that one which brings inspiration to other’s hopelessness. What you have at hand might just be those five loaves and two fishes — too little as it may seem, but as long as you give God your “Amen”, no amount of yourself will ever be too small. #sunset

 

 

Your Cross is a Symbol of Life

Are you having difficult time right now?  Do you feel that you’re carrying a cross at this point in time? 

Don’t feel too low Dear Friend, God can transform your difficulties to grace!  

In today’s Gospel, Jesus challenged His disciples to collaborate with His mission by carrying their cross. 

In our life, we too are called to carry our cross and to follow Jesus. 

That cross which is a symbol of life and of our being saved. 

“We will not die forever bec we do not belong to death, we belong to God.” — Fr. Erwin dela Cruz

The call is for us to keep on trusting our God — for if we do, nothing could keep us apart from Him. 

Walang pagsubok at paghihirap na hindi natin kayang paglabanan because our weapon is the ressureccion of our Lord Jesus Christ. 

Paying this forward, to you dear friend,  as inspired by Fr. Erwin Dela Cruz’s homily during the Mass @ The Feast SM Sta Rosa this morning, July 2, 2017. 

Photo credits: Earl Pascua, The Feast SM Sta Rosa

Bridging the GAP for Transformation Towards Higher Horizons

“If you can align yourself with what you are passionate in doing, you are creating a change in the world.”

Starting it up @ the University of Makati for the Academic Year 2017-2018, everyone is enjoined to strive for a higher range of vision with this year’s Annual University Conference Theme: “UMAK 2017 and Beyond: Transforming Towards Higher Horizons”

Should anyone ever felt the message and the advocacy of UMak’s President, Professor Tomas B. Lopez Jr., you would end up asking yourself, “What direction should I personally take to make a marked change that would aid transformation and beyond?”

During his Talk, President & CEO of Serbisyo Filipino Inc., Group of Companies/Career Center, Mr. Luis Alberto A. Anastacio II cited the truth that only 40% out of the 1000 applying candidates would pass job interviews. Sadly, most people would be going home with broken souls because they cannot fit themselves in the job that they’re expecting to be in.  In a recent study for Career Readiness, The Philippine Talentmap Initiative Comparative Result in April 2017 revealed that: [1] Problem Sensitivity, [2] Decision Making, [3] Planning & Organizing, [4] Innovation and [5] Creative Problem Solving are the competencies which we need to address in  the NCR area and even in the entire Philippines. University of Makati’s Talentmap Result show that the Top 5 Skills of students are the following: [1] Multitasking; [2] English Functional; [3] Math Functional; [4] Workplace Ethics and [5] English Comprehension. Low 5 Skills, however, are: [1] Creative Problem Solving; [2] Innovation; [3] Planning and Organizing; [4] Decision Making and [5] Teamwork.

Now, what does such result imply?

Our students may be able to exhibit basic communication skills in reading, writing, speaking and listening; they may also be capable of setting priorities in the present time with such an ease; — yet, they have mild to moderate level of difficulty in executing higher-order thinking skills that are involved in challenging the status quo since they tend to be reserved in all, if not most of their dealings that require divergent thinking.

Mr. President & CEO of Serbisyo Filipino Inc. highlighted the following Implications of such Talentmap result:

  • the need to develop higher-order thinking and socio-emotional/affective skills of the students;
  • the need for evidence-based career development services and programs to develop the knowledge, skills, and values of the programs to develop the knowledge, skills, and values of the students that are required by the world of work;
  • the need for curriculum review/mapping and/or curriculum integration to highlight foundational workplace competencies; and
  • the need to capacitate the faculty in teaching and contextualizing workplace competencies in their lessons and learning activities.

Unfortunately, we are quite far from the reality of what is ideal and expected.

There is a workforce skills gap!

We should find what that GAP is. 

Perspectives and possibilities … what is it that we should really find?

If we are in the business of educating people because our greatest asset in the workforce is these people,  should we not be bothered to help our students in finding their worth as they strive to mobilize and progress to the battlefield?

Something should be done to bridge the academe and the industry.  So, what direction should we take then, to fill in such GAP?

While pondering intently and taking into account by heart the advocacy of  President Tomas B. Lopez Jr and his unique mind, I personally came up with some directions based on the inputs of Mr. Anastacio II in his talk,  and on my own contemplations.  Whether you’re a UMak educator or not and you happen to bump into this article, I intend to share these thoughts with you here, hoping that  in one way or another, we may find it very significant to create a passage en route for higher horizons:

 ASSESS! We should go back to the basics of looking into what’s within every being — first and foremost that of our OWN.  We can humbly strive to do SELF-ASSESSMENT for us to be reminded of our BIG WHY — not just to earn a living but to serve the deep purpose of our existence as an EDUCATOR.

WORK ON YOUR OWN COMPETENCIES. We can never give what we don’t have. The 21st Century Skills Framework that should be fulfilled in our students should prominently be the same competencies that we should strive to work up for ourselves. We need to reorient ourselves and to learn how to think outside of the box.

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DECIDE TO MAKE A DIFFERENCE IN THE LIVES OF YOUR STUDENTS.  Once you have empowered yourself with such competencies, the next BIG THING is to make way that those Values and Ethics should be embedded in the curriculum.  Planning and Assessments on how we are going to include measures to improve these skills in our curriculum are, by all means, A MUST!

DEVELOP CAREER PATHWAYS that are based on assessments so as to address the Talentmap Results. Collaborate with the academe  –- so that by the time they leave our custody,  they already have the Employability Skills that would equip them elsewhere as they work for their career development.

EMPOWER YOUR STUDENTS. Train them to be SELF-DIRECTED in developing HIGHER ORDER THINKING SKILLS aside from the help and assistance that they get from their mentors.  Help them identify the basics of leadership so that they could be more ARTICULATE and confident in presenting themselves in the industry. Encourage them to DREAM BIG and become persistent in executing their plans for their own growth.

BE A CAREER ADVOCATE.  Preparation for Professional route should have started in Kindergarten.  Yet, not many of our students were guided accordingly that’s why most of them don’t really clearly know their passion; they cannot identify what they truly love doing. In our own special ways, we could intently point them to their “true north” by providing them with significant activities that would define their goals and opportunities.   This Career Development Framework could be of great help:

photo credits: http://www.peelschools.org/students/myblueprint/PublishingImages/Pages/default/career%20and%20life%20planning%20bubble.png

If only we could exert utmost effort for these sense of purpose, we would eventually realize that what would bridge the academe and the industry is actually our personal commitment not only to fulfill our purpose as an educator but to give the most we could to help people FIND THEIR WORTH.

If only we would strive to undertake alterations and modifications in the delivery in our educational system, we could positively respond to the challenge given to us by Executive Vice President Dr. Raymundo P. Arcega:

“We should know where we are in making our students complete at the end of the semester of his stay in UMak.”

We could also take action towards the mandate to us by Vice President for Academic Affairs, Dr. Elexzur C. Ramos:

“We’ve got to love what we are doing because it’s our purpose. A man has responsibility; not merely power!”  

If only we can align ourselves with what we are passionate about, only then, could we create a change in the world  — when we could bring ourselves beyond the limits of higher horizons.  #trendingprofgailmontero

 

 

 

 

6 Ways to Be Your Own Best Friend

Hi, Friends, sharing with you again in gratitude, my personal notes on the 3rd Talk of the Series: MAGNETIC by our Feast Builder Bro Dreus Cosio @ The Feast SM Santa Rosa, Cinema 1,  two weeks ago.  

Sorry for posting this late; I just had to accomplish a lot lately — but  I don’t wanna miss this chance because being a mother of three daughters, I dearly hope this would be something they can always go back to when they come to the RIGHT TIME of finding their “Mr. Right”.  I sure do hope that this would also help a lot of parents out there while they fervently desire for their child’s best future. 

SERIES:  MAGNETIC

How to Attract The Right Person Into Your Life

Talk 3: The Bond

When you try to look for the right person,

“Hanapin mo yong taong gagawin kang priority, hindi temporary.”

Basically, both men and women — some, if not all — do not really know how to attract the right person in their life. 

Why? — because people are getting confused in their love story and with the way they look at themselves.  

Unconscious as they are, there is that tendency to carelessly submit or comply with the  3 Laws of Romantic Attraction:

  

1st law.  You don’t attract who you deserve.  You attract who you think you deserve.

Subconsciously, you see yourself in a very low way.   You’ve got to consider that your perception is your reality.  If you perceive yourself as somebody who is broken, you will be looking for another broken person. 

The perfect formula for a toxic relationship is a toxic self.

2nd law.  You don’t attract who you want. You attract who you are.

A wounded person will attract another wounded person. An emotionally healthy person will attract another healthy person.

3rd law.  You don’t attract how you want to be treated.  You attract how you treat yourself.

Long before he treated her as garbage, she already treated herself as garbage.To her, abuse felt like love.

Broken people attracts broken people.  “If you don’t do the inner work to heal yourself, your unhealed wounds will attract another wounded person.”

 “If you don’t heal your own wounds, you’ll go into a relationship, seeking for someone else to heal your wounds.”

 work on yourself first

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You get attracted to many wrong people because you don’t really think of your self too well.  

TO ATTRACT THE RIGHT PERSON, you’ve got “WORK ON YOUR SELF FIRST!”  Unless you have a healthy relationship with yourself, you’ll never have a healthy relationship with others.

Its ok for you to declare that you are wonderfully made.  You have to love yourself!

 i am fearfully made

photo credits:  amendesigns.com

 

You’ve got to BE YOUR OWN BEST FRIEND! 

How? 

Here are these 6 WAYS  to be your own BEST FRIEND:

1. Forgive your faults.

    Imagine yourself at the end of the day and forgive yourself.

2. Fix your fences.

    Fix your defense system — your boundaries.  Protect yourself from meanness. 

3.  Feel your feelings.

    All emotions are valid but not all expressions.  Affirming your feelings is respecting yourself. 

    Put a gap between emotion and expression. 

4. Focus on your fantasies.

    What do you picture in your mind? 

    Stop thinking about the bad stuff that’s happening in your life.  

5. Follow your fun.

    Don’t take yourself too seriously. “tumawa ka naman!” 🙂 

    Laugh more often! 

6. Find your flow.

    Go on, pursue your passion as a person!

    If you find your flow — your “zone” — you feel alive. 

                  

Go back to yourself.  Be comfortable with one thing in life — be comfortable with God’s love.

The bond simply means you have to fix your relationships at home by fixing your self first.  You have to love your self every day.  You have to feel good about yourself because it all boils down on how you see yourself!

Bro Dreus concluded with this advice:

“Everyday, start declaring the wonderful characters that you are!  Couples as well, you could start to embrace your differences and start fixing your relationship.”

Pwedeng may part ng buhay mo na hindi ka sanay

But you need to be comfortable in that place— how? 

Magpamahal ka kay God.

Allow God to tell you how much He loves you! 

#sunset

https://gailmontero.blogspot.com/2017/06/6-ways-to-be-your-own-best-friend.html

 

God’s promise will be fulfilled in you soon! It may not be just as you expect but just keep on doing the right thing & trust God’s way. 
#abruptthoughts #abruptthoughtsbygailmontero #Godsprompting #trustGodsway

Invisible to the Eyes

“Sometimes you just want things that are not essential for the moment. Look w/in & realize that what you actually need is some time with yourself — for you to understand that what’s essential is invisible to the eyes.” 

                                          on canvas by relyngail montero @ ArtSignaturebyRGandMom

#abruptthoughts #abruptthoughtsbygailmontero #whatsessentialisinvisibletotheeye #artsignaturebyRGandMom

Every Mess could be a Masterpiece

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Sometimes you need to “just be you” with that pure heart.

All that it takes for us to come up with something beautiful out of any mess is that heart that appreciates. Our perspective would matter a lot. The way we look at things will always make the difference. And because we’re just as grateful for the gift of time, every bit of effort will always be significant.

All that it takes for us to come up with something beautiful out of any mess is that heart that appreciates. Our perspective would matter a lot. The way we look at things will always make the difference. And because we’re just as grateful for the gift of time, every bit of effort will always be significant.

Source: Every Mess could be a Masterpiece

Early Childhood Education — A Moral Issue?

Some business leaders in an International report contended that “Investing in Early Childhood Education is one of the wisest things we can make!”  

Considering the fact that “Children from 0 to 5 can’t fight for themselves to get a better start at life,” they say that this is not just an economic issue, but the moral justice issue of our time.

To align with the promotion of Universal Kindergarten, the Philippine Educational System instigated the Early Childhood Care and Development (ECCD) program. Supported by UNICEF, such program intends to deliver the best start for all children and to contribute to the Global platform for Primary Education. Collaborations have been in occurrence with government & private associates to promote a holistic approach to early learning and to bring in, series of actions for each child’s progress. Parental Involvement is also enhanced, in coordination with educational advocates, so as to appropriately aid the children in their first five years’ crucial development.

However, despite the investment of time, treasure and effort towards the emerging Four Themes in Early Childhood Education, it turns out that we are still facing major issues that need to be addressed amidst pressing times in terms of: [1] the ethic of social reform, [2] the importance of childhood, [3] transmitting values and [4] a sense of professionalism.

On [1] Ethic of social reform, we are currently experiencing inequities & mediocre child care. There is still the deep need for social justice since the goal of closing the achievement gap between disadvantaged and minority pupils have not been realized as of yet.

On [2] The Importance of childhood, sad to say, children of today have no choice but endure “an endangered childhood” because there is so much emphasis on survival, while kids are chaotically exposed to reality and adult experiences. Families, where they belong are under different forms of stress such as restoration of relationships, too busy working parents who rarely have quality time with them, parents who are working their way to the edge just to fight poverty, and the likes.

On [3] Transmitting values, adults as we are: parents and stakeholders, we more often than not forget that “Early learning is powerful!” In a majority of instances, we are caught unaware by our own reactions and viewpoints along with the confronts of media’s exposure of violence, tragedy & social diversity – with which, children are subconsciously developing some kind of behavior, if not deep scar or trauma, especially if we’ve reacted unconstructively.

On [4] Professionalism, not many of our stakeholders are persistent in an advocacy of passionately fulfilling “a better start at life” service in the field of early childhood. Teachers are not given proper and significant training to help them deal with children when differences arise between the cultural patterns of the home, community and those of the school’s.

Fantasy and reality in the minds of young kids are not separate things. Innocent as they are, they have that strong expectation that adults will respond to what they need – in which case, we’ve got to harness the discrepancies between their make-believe and reality, otherwise, we are not giving them THE BEST START that they should get. However, being confronted with the above-mentioned matters in reality, wouldn’t we worry that we may disappoint the youngs of our time? Would you agree that this is more of a moral justice issue rather than economic?

Being both A FACILITATOR OF LIFE and a CURRICULARIST, would it then still be wise to Invest in Early Childhood Education? Please share your idea.


If we are not prepared, we are going to spend the rest of our time REPAIRING!


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Resources:

http://www.brighthubeducation.com/teaching-preschool/104635-trends-in-early-childhood-education/

https://mymission.lamission.edu/userdata/bazikyi/docs/COC/15_GordonBrowne9e%20PPT.pdf

http://www.delmarlearning.com/companions/content/1418011339/resources/Ch1.asp

http://voxglobal.com/2013/05/top-trends-and-issues-in-education-takeaways-from-the-education-writers-association-ewa-conference-2013/